Millions of people along with myself are dealing with this everyday. Suffering. Struggling.
I am talking about the “after”. The time after your assault, rape, etc.
This time lasts for the rest of our lives as victims.
The first stage (usually right after the incident) is an extremely emotional state for most. I like to call it the grieving period. I call it this because it is a constant feeling of loss. I felt as if I lost who I was (which is common) because I felt as if my rapist stole that from me. The grieving period can last months to years depending on each person and situation.
After that, it quickly hits that this is something you will have to deal with for the rest of your life. That is something I really wished that more people understood, we can not just get over our rape. It does not disappear from our thoughts after a few months. We are constantly struggling because of what happened, even after years. For me, it took about a year to really believe and understand that I will be struggling with this for the rest of my life. YES, it does get better! But it is a scarring event that stays with us victims.
One thing that was extremely tough for me and I am sure many other, was after my rape people constantly checked in on me to make sure I was okay and that really helped. But after about three or four weeks, that was over. It was like everyone forgot it happened and expected me to just be normal again, but I wasn’t. I am still not “normal”. That was extremely tough because I then felt completely alone because everyone else “forgot”.
If there was one thing I wish you would get from this blog is: Being raped does not just affect you for a few months, it affects you for the rest of your life.
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Love and Blessings,